It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.– Marcus Aurelius
Love can make us care for someone more than they care for themselves. A child, for example, or an adult struggling with problems like addiction or mental illness. With great deals of love, we can help others in need, or at least give them the tools they need to help themselves.
However, when it comes to making healthy changes in your own life, it is important to recognize that even if other people would willingly shoulder the responsibility for your behaviors, they simply cannot. Transformation doesn’t work that way. Your spouse can’t do the workout for you. Your best friend in the world can’t eat the healthy food for you. It just won’t help.
You need to care about your own opinion of yourself enough to take your health seriously. If you don’t care enough about your own health, who will? If you are not going to take control of yourself, who can? If you’re not going to do it now, when will you?
Obviously the answer is never. It will never happen. No one is able to do it for you, even if they wanted to more than anything else in the world! You have to do the hard work for yourself, and you have to do it now.
Now I’m not raising this point to make you feel down about yourself or hopeless…quite the opposite! I bring this up because it is important to recognize this simple fact: No matter how you ended up where you are right now, it is up to you to get yourself out of your situation!
Sure, others can help you in peripheral ways, like making sure the kitchen is stocked with healthy choices, and giving you the time to complete an uninterrupted workout. However at the end of the day, you must walk the long road alone.
So are you going to do it? Will you keep going? It’s so easy to quit, but you made a promise to yourself, right? You made a promise to your spouse, your children, your parents. You said “I will be here for you when you need me.”
Maybe you didn’t say this outright. But loving someone means being there for them. Being there to help them when they are too old, too young, too sick, or too beaten down by life to help themselves. You said you would be there, now take care of yourself so that you can be there!
If you won’t take care of yourself, you will eventually become a burden to those closest to you. That is, the people who love you more than you love yourself. Your family, friends, and loved ones will be forced to sacrifice parts of their lives to care for you, all because you wouldn’t do it for yourself.
No one else can do this for you except you.
So every time you’re feeling down, or tired, or unmotivated, or feeling sorry for yourself, remember to ask yourself this simple question:
“If I won’t do it, who will?“