You have finally unlocked the door that was keeping you from achieving your true potential and you’ve caught a glimpse of what the fitness mindset is all about. You are no longer trying to get fit, you have become fit. Maybe you don’t look very fit yet, or maybe you don’t feel very fit yet, but there has been a subtle but all-important change in how you approach fitness from now on. You now believe in fitness as a way of life, and the journey of self-improvement and healthy living has imprinted itself on your very identity.
You are approaching singularity
So far, the following sequence of events is how I have been telling you to make progress during this program:
Your mind desires something, you make a plan, and your body must execute the plan to make the change a reality. The mind has to push the body really hard in the beginning, especially because the body doesn’t trust the plan yet. However, over time, the body begins to feel what is happening and wants to do more of what makes it feel good (positive feedback). The body begins to function automatically, while the mind is now freed-up to make higher-level choices about keeping you fit.
But I left one important thing out. It would have been impossible to try to explain this concept to you a few weeks ago…you simply were not ready. However, I think by now you will able to understand the idea a little better. This idea is the secret to long-term success in any lifestyle change, and fitness is no different.
I call it “Singularity.”
Singularity is when the mind and body become indistinguishable, functioning seamlessly as one unit. You think and do at the same time, for the same goals, and both systems operate independently, at full-speed, without conscious thought, to multiply your progress exponentially.
When you have achieved singularity, you will no longer need to use psychological tactics to keep yourself motivated. You have evolved. You will just be behaving as you, without the need for the robot mentality, or having to embrace things that suck, or fighting through pain and hunger. These mind tricks will seem trivial to you now. With singularity, you are simply acting as someone who believes that his or her actions are necessary and normal: Wake up early, work out, eat healthy…just another normal day.
A shift in your identity
Before you can think about singularity, you must allow health and fitness to imprint itself on your very identity. You must think of yourself as someone who cares about health and fitness, and you must also allow others think of you in the same way.
Now, you don’t need to run around telling anyone that will listen about how you work out all the time and eat mainly whole foods (in fact, I recommend that you don’t do that because you will come off as haughty!)
Instead, your actions should speak for themselves. People will ask questions about your choices or activities, and the way you answer those questions is very telling about how much you really identify with health and fitness.
If you roll your eyes and say, “Yeah, I’m trying to “eat healthy” for this 40-day plan or whatever, hahaha!” then you are not really identifying with your actions. You are leaving yourself an “out” and acting like you are just “messing around” with something new, but not really going for it all the way. You don’t yet believe in yourself.
However, if you say something like “Yeah, I’m eating healthier now because it’s good for me and I realize that I should take care of the one body that I have in this world before it’s too late!” then you are owning your actions. You have made your choices clear and shown that you really identify yourself as someone who cares about health and fitness. You believe in yourself.
To become what you desire, you must truly identify with the path you have chosen. You must see yourself as a person on an endless and amazing one-way journey toward health and fitness, not as a person who is merely dabbling in something new for a few weeks.
When you finally know deep down in your core that health and fitness is the way for you, then you will do the behaviors that you need to keep you in line with this identity. But in order to really become what you desire, there is still one more important requirement…
The sine qua non
To complete your transformation, you must first revisit the beginning: The question of why.
Why do you really care about being healthy? Why did you get started? It’s not just because you want to look better, or have lower cholesterol, or feel good–these things are great side-effects of a healthy lifestyle. But why did you take this journey in the first place?
The answer must always come down to respect.
Taking care of your health is the ultimate expression of self-respect. You were given one body and one life: It is your duty to take care of it! Unfortunately, people take better care of their cars, lawns, golf clubs, and other trivial things than they do of their own minds and bodies.
Self-respect is the sine qua non (without which there is nothing) of health and fitness!
Showing respect for your health is also a form of respecting your parents, who gave you your body and your life. Keeping yourself healthy is a way to respect your children, who look at you as an example. By staying healthy, able, and alive, you are respecting your commitment to simply be around to raise your kids. You are respecting your spouse or partner by keeping healthy and fit too. Keeping yourself desirable and healthy is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship: It unlocks so many activities that you can share together, and gives your partner one less reason to worry about something happening to you as you age.
“Yeah, I do this now!”
If you want to reach singularity, it all starts with identifying with healthy and fitness. Don’t be afraid to think of yourself as someone who health and fitness is important to. “Yeah, I do this now!” is a good way to think about it. Going out for a jog? “Yeah, that’s me.” Packing my lunch and avoiding the bagels in the office? “Yup, that’s how I roll!” This stuff is important to me because I respect myself. Healthy living is a part of who I am now!
If you make health and fitness an important part of your identity you will get closer and closer to creating a lifestyle that promotes constant sustainable progress. Practice this lifestyle for long enough for it to become unconscious and one day you will reach singularity!